District 2, William H. Turner Technical Arts High School
Alice Dressler's Class
Narratives by the students of Turner Tech.
Alice Dressler's Class Chris Kirchner's Class
Pain, age 15
My 14-year-old friend Sarah was dating this 19-year-old boy. He was engaged to another girl but never told Sarah about it. When she found out, she tried to leave him. He slapped her and warned her that he would kill her if she ever tried to leave him. She stayed with him because she feared for her life. She stayed with him because they were in love. He was only engaged to the other girl because she was pregnant. But then he found out it wasn’t his child. He was never abusive to Sarah again. Sarah is now pregnant and they are still together.
Gabby, age 15
One of my best friends was physically abused by her boyfriend who also was a friend of mine. He was no longer my friend if he could do that. When my best friend was hurt, it felt painful for me to watch. I saw darkness and became very sad. I learned not to ever allow anyone to abuse me.
Thicklicious, age 17
One day, my friend mentioned that she found out that her boyfriend has one of his friends watching her in school. He knows where she lives and what she does when she is not with him. I asked her how that made her feel. She told me that she felt hurt that the man she cared about didn’t trust her for one second.
When she told me this, I asked her why she doesn’t break up with. She told me that sometimes she wants to break up but she would prefer he break up with her. This way they could remain friends.
Things got worse. He accused her of cheating on him. I told her to break up with him before his anger turns to physical abuse. She said she can handle him. But, in fact, she started cheating on him. She said, “If he doesn’t trust me, I’ll give him something real not to trust.” Strange as it seems, they are still a couple even though they don’t trust one another.
Pimp from Hialeah, age16
A friend of mine named Shaggy had a relationship with a girl named KK. KK would abuse him by calling him stupid, dumb, and complain that he acts like a child. When she started to hit him, it seemed like she would never stop. Shaggy let her do anything she wanted because he loved her too much to break it off. It made me laugh a little because I never thought that a girl could do this to a boy. Then, when I saw what he was talking about, it made me feel bad. What finally broke them up was that KK told Shaggy that she was cheating on him from the beginning with someone else. It took a while for Shaggy to recover but he did and found someone else.
Shaggy, age 17
My friend dated a girl that he treated very nicely when they went out. She took this for weakness and was constantly abusive to him. It made me feel bad that she would say hurtful things and he would never say anything back. She complained about everything. Finally he couldn’t take it anymore. They had a fight in which my friend busted her lip. Her brother broke his arm.
PAIN IS LOVE
Extar, age 16
A friend of mine had a boyfriend who would put her down, and even force her to have sex with him. She told me everything that happened. I told myself that I would never put myself through that. I told myself that if a guy would so much as yell at me that I wouldn’t put up with it.
Till now I have kept my word.
Krazy Te, age 17
Many people go through date abuse. I know one girl that had a boyfriend. He was fine. WOW! He bought her everything. They were like the perfect couple. Until one day he just changed. He would always yell at her, put his hands all over her and she just let him. Many times she would come to school all messed up because her boyfriend hit her. For a couple of days nobody saw her or him. Then we heard that he had beaten her to death and he was in jail.
DATE ABUSE CAN END UP IN DEATH!!!
Baby Joker, age 15
I was in a relationship. I found out that this girl liked me so I took a chance and asked her out to see a movie that I wanted to see. She wanted to see a different movie. I said no because I was the one who was paying for the tickets. Also I was too nice to her and she took that as a joke. She didn’t care about me at all. That really hurt me.
Alexis, age 16
I love Mimi and I really care in my heart a lot. I know her for 8 months. She is very nice to me. We talk almost every day even if we don’t see each other every day. Mimi and I are not sweethearts yet, but I would like to be with her. I think about Mimi being my sweetheart. We both want to be together but we don’t want any problems. I know about them because people always have bad things to say.
We both are still working on it and seeing if we can be together. Sometimes things are wrong between us and we don’t know what is going on or what we are feeling. Mimi knows that I really love her and I know that she really loves me. We both know everything about our feelings. We both want to keep our friendship close.
Drum Major, age 15
I know a boy who has a girlfriend. They had a good relationship. Then one day it happened. They got into an argument about what happened the night before. The argument was about having sex and control of the relationship. He said he was taking control of the relationship and many other wrong things. She slapped him. A few days later he called and apologized. She accepted his apology and never mentioned the incident again. The point of the story is that the boy was trying to have sex with the girl but she wasn’t ready for that yet. He said he was sorry and stopped grabbing her.
Kell, age 15
I know this girl who has a friend who was in a bad relationship. They met in 8th grade. They had the best relationship in middle school. Everyone knew about them. They were a great couple. Their relationship continued through 9th and into 10th grade. That was when the fighting started. First the boy stopped calling her. That made the girl think that he was seeing someone else. When she asked him if he was seeing someone else, he looked at her and walked right by her. The next day, she saw the boy talking to another girl that she didn’t know. She walked up to him and said “*&%$#@* then slapped him. The boy tried to hit her back but was held back by his friends. Ever since that day, they haven’t talked or even looked at each other. What a terrible way to end a relationship.
Scooby, age 16
One of my great friends goes out with this boy. One day a group of friends made plans together to go to a movie and dinner. The day before I heard the guy call my friend stupid and ugly. He was very controlling. Anything he would tell her to do she would do. I tried to tell her how this looked to others, but she wouldn’t listen to me.
Back to my story, she told a joke about him and everyone began to laugh. He got very mad and started to say bad things to her and she began to cry. He told her to shut up and stop crying and she did. I waited until she got home. I called her and told her that she needs help. I told her that she needs someone that won’t hurt her and make her feel horrible. She finally broke up with him and found someone else.
EMOTIONAL ABUSE HURTS.
DON’T LET ANYONE TRY TO CONTROL AND HURT YOU!!!
Shorty, age 15
The only abuse I’ve seen was between my X-best friend and his girlfriend. Whenever we would have something planned, he would tell her she couldn’t go and when we came back he would tell her a lie. He sometimes would tell her that she couldn’t wear shorts and who she can and can’t talk to. What I didn’t like about the relationship is that he didn’t take the time to get to know her friends but judged them by the way they looked. He never let her go anywhere and sometimes even pushed her in the hallway. He would push her against the wall and five minutes later act like nothing happened.
If I am ever in a relationship and my mate is not treating me right, I’ll try my best to talk to him about it, tell him that I can’t be with him anymore. If that didn’t work, I would just break up with him and end the relationship.
Flirt, age 15
My best friend was going out with this girl and everything was fine for about four or five weeks. One day, as my friend and I were walking to class, I saw his girlfriend kissing another guy. I told my friend to look, and asked him isn’t that your girl. He said yes, let’s go over there. We went over and pushed the guy. We fought the guy until he finally ran away all beaten up. My friend then told his girl that it’s over and not to speak to him ever again. Then he walked away.
Cute Boy 204, age 17
I do not know any teenagers who have been abused by their girlfriends or boyfriends. However, I feel that if a teenager abuses his or her boyfriend or girlfriend, there might be a bigger problem. Maybe the abuser is on drugs or he/she may be crazy. Or that teen may just have low self-esteem. Whatever the problem is, that person, and also the abused, needs help before something terrible happens. No one deserves to be abused.
Maggie, age 16
This story is about what happens when you think you are in love with a man that does not care. It was 1997 when they first met. They were only 11 years old, young and free. She had a crush on him, but he was not interested in her that way. But they sat together in school every day. He would throw dirt in her face, as a child’s game. In the year 2000, when they were 14 years old, she still loves him. He is going out with her. He knows she loves him. He calls her names and tells her what she can and can’t do. She cries when she sees him with another girl. But still with her love, she would never think of breaking up. Now it is the year 2002. They are 16. She finds him in bed with her best friend in her mother’s room. She finally puts down her foot and tells him she can no longer be with him. He tells her no and pushes her into the kitchen. She falls on the floor. He hit her face. She did not move, for a minute looking asleep. He pulled her up. Then he saw the blood. There was a knife on the floor that went into her back. She let him go too late. She needed to let him go on that first hit. But now she lives with no life.